Japan is considering its policy stance on the Hague Convention governing International Child Abduction. The reality is that its not really even abduction so long as Japan offers its citizens another legal standard.
Japanese women can be just as manipulative as (Western) men can be abusive. There is no question that some Western men are predators when it comes to their pursuits of Japanese women. Japanese women are famous for being submissive. That is a cultural generalisation that has allowed a great many men to play the odds. Some men denied validation seek out Japanese partners because they can also have intimacy issues. Likewise submissive Japanese women can tolerate abusive Western men enabled by their 'mute' compliance.
This ought not dispel the possibility that Japanese women are capable of manipulation. Whilst Japanese women do not generally display a great sense of ambition; make no mistake they will distort reality to achieve their subjective, nurturing desire to retain their children. The prospect of a Japanese government which retains the stereotype of Western men being abusive is of course not helpful. Japanese culture upholds this 'superiority' based on their notion of civility which is based on some notion of 'sensibility', 'courtesy' or consideration for others. The reality is that value system is far more a pretense than a genuine respect for rights or the interests of others, and the stereotype of Westerners being 'aggressive' or uncivilised 'egoists' plays into such issues where Japanese women are able to 'play victim' without proper scrutiny of the issue. Consider the following quote from a women in the Japan Times article:
"If Japan were to sign the Hague Convention . . . (my child would) be forced to live with an abusive father and be exposed to violence again....And I will become a (declared) criminal."
When I first read this I assumed she was concerned about some form of prejudicial treatment....but in fact she is worried about having broken the law in the West, and being accountable for that. Her desire is to avoid Western legal enforcement because the Japanese system created a loophole. The reality is that this woman does not deserve to be in prison. Her actions speak more about the poor legal system which turns people into adversaries.
Many years ago I was interested in a relationship with a Japanese girl in Cairns, Australia who had a child with an Australian man. What struck me as telling was that she displayed no empathy for the guy who was preventing her from getting a passport for her child; precisely because he was aware that Japan had not signed the Hague Convention. If she was genuine in taking her child to Japan for a visit, she was being punished by the Japanese government because her partner needed to taken precautionary measures to protect his interests.
Labelling Westerners as abusive or 'aggressive' is cultural cringe. In my relationship with a Japanese lady. She was the 'abusive' one in a sense....though it was not threatening to me. There was one incident where she pushed me up against a wall. In another case, she came at me with a knife in anger because an argument ensued over the fact that I said "I wanted to cook a roast lamb the way my mother used to cook it". That is the kiss of death to a Japanese wife who sees cooking as her domain. I don't believe she intended to hurt me with the knife. I think she did not even realise she had it in her hand when she came at me, but I pushed her away in self-defense. The reality is - women can react very emotionally, and very defensively to 'cold logic', which she got in spades from me.
These is a problem. Couples who break up and who want to part ways divide the interests of the children. How to deal with this issue when - only Japan - has a different legal system. The problem of course is that these (usually) women usually have no desire to live in the West after their relationship ends. Where does the child go? commonsense says its best left in the country where it has pre-existing relationships. Abuse of course needs to be investigated...but its not the role of a partner to be the presiding judge and determine the interests of the child if they have a conflict of interest. Japan knows that...they have laws against conflict of interest. Why the obstinate delays to signing this convention.
The Japanese government is creating a lot of paranoia and injury with this law. I do however think there needs to be special international tribunals to deal with such issues. I suggest that each country appoints an advocate for its culture and that two advocates and one independent 'third party' advocate provide arbitration on these cases, because there is a rich personal and cultural context which needs to be explored. This approach is far better than a Family Court which has no informed understanding of the cultural context. The implication is that the Hague Convention is not an adequate framework for dealing with these issues. In the current system people's interests are going to be prejudiced by uninformed courts.
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